Dear Readers, It happens every year. As grads get ready to enjoy their upcoming independence, I start getting questions from concerned parents who are well aware of the myriad financial responsibilities their new graduates are going to face. They want to help—just enough to get the kids started, but not enough to destroy their motivation.

I’m all for one generation helping the next, but it’s a balancing act for sure. Realistically, with today’s competitive job market, we can’t expect our kids to land their dream jobs right out of the gate. But we can expect them to be responsible, resourceful and aware of the importance of making good financial decisions no matter their job or their starting salary.

On June 12, South Carolina registered voters will vote in the SC Primary election. A high voter turnout is hopeful given the magnitude of these races for the important offices of governor, lieutenant governor, secretary of state and attorney general. A man of the people, who cares about issues important to women, South Carolina Attorney Alan Wilson made it a point to catch up with Pink Magazine.

Many don’t understand the importance of the office of attorney general. Basically, the attorney general is the chief legal officer and chief prosecutor for our state.  There are close to 300 employees in the attorney general’s office, and Alan Wilson has been at the helm since taking office in 2011.

It’s time to make the shift into summer and lighten up your wardrobe. Take some time off from those serious statement clothes and brighten up your fashion outlook on life. We all need a little vacation break...even if we’re not lounging on a cruise ship...but just grilling and chilling in the backyard. Here are 10 must-haves to put on your summer shopping list.

Find Your Rainbow. Rainbow stripes will definitely put you in a good mood—and fast. Bold Crayola colors are popping up in breezy dresses, kimono robes and swimwear everywhere. Even accessories get the rainbow treatment in shoes and handbags.

On Tuesday, October 11, 2016 my life changed forever. I heard my home in Hilton Head Plantation had been destroyed by Hurricane Matthew, but it wasn’t until the following Tuesday that I saw it with my own eyes and felt it with my own heart. I kept a chin-up attitude. My husband (at the time) and I jumped right in, helping the mitigation team empty the house. Our stuff had been reduce to debris. I had to find somewhere to live, contact insurance people, mortgage people, tree people, contractors, structural engineers, storage companies, and mold mitigation teams. I also had to ensure the next issue of Pink would come out on time to keep my business and livelihood alive. It was overwhelming to say the least.

Coligny Plaza, Hilton Head Island’s original shopping center, started out as a “mom and pop” operation in 1955 and has kept that same hometown feel ever since. Sixty-three years in, Coligny is still a place where area entrepreneurs can set up shop and see their dreams come to life. However, the only job harder than being an entrepreneur is being a mom. So, we asked a few entrepreneurs at Coligny to tell us their thoughts about motherhood, moms and anything maternal.

Connie Inggs
Caretta Coffee Company
“I love being a Mom to my beautiful “children” that work at our small business called Caretta Coffee. We are a family, and I believe each and every one of them plays a crucial role in our keeping our small business alive! I also love being a mom to my beautiful twin daughters who are in Oregon. Because of them, I am able to be a mom to others. A mom is someone who nurtures, encourages and loves unconditionally.”

Iris Apfel’s new book Accidental Icon: Musings of a Geriatric Starlet is not really an accident. The 96-year-young larger than life personality has a lot to say in her latest reflections, complete with photographs and illustrations of life as an interior designer, textile expert and fashion influencer. The visionary has had a documentary made about her, has been the face of MAC cosmetics and has been the subject of several museum exhibitions of her clothing and accessories. With her signature oversized glasses, chunky jewelry, colorful clothes and furs, she is the epitome of “cool” ...and she has lots to say about her amazing experiences.

"Pardon me. I’m looking for the perfect Mother’s Day card.”

“You’ve come to the right place. What type of card do you want?”

“Do you have a card for a mother who isn’t very nice?”

“Hmmm? Come with me to the back room. There are some other people wandering around in there trying to find cards for difficult mothers. You know that’s a tough order to fill, don’t you?”

“Do I know that? Guess how many years I’ve been trying to find that card. Better yet, guess how many years I have been trying to get along with my mother!”

In a world where we are bombarded with stress on a daily basis, peace of mind is a welcome respite. Worry not only wears on our psyches, but also on our general wellbeing. When it comes to health, sometimes the medical tests we have to endure can be as daunting as awaiting the outcomes. And, thankfully those medical tests aren’t ordered until there are definite symptoms. However, there is now a tried and true medical test new to the Lowcountry—thermal imaging. It is not a replacement for physician ordered testing; it is an add-on that many are choosing to have in order to detect health issues, possibly years before they become detrimental, or are detected by traditional medicine.

“Instead of disease detection, we call thermography “health discovery,” said Shar Weinrauch, certified thermographer and owner of Coastal Thermal Imaging Medical Thermography. Shar, a 20-year breast cancer survivor, who experienced a rapid growing lump, wished she would have known about thermal imaging before her diagnosis. Nonetheless, she discovered thermography while on her journey to heal herself of cancer, often using alternative methods. “Thermography can detect an area of concern up to eight years prior to it becoming a problem.” Shar likens thermography to “unzipping your skin” and being able to see inside. “In a nutshell, thermography can see your body asking for extra help,” she said.

The relationship between a pet and its parent is more than a relationship of ownership; it is a relationship of love and trust. Pets are an integral part of the family. Because they are so much more than owned objects, you and your pet’s relationship with the veterinarian and his/her team is crucial. There are four main aspects of what to expect during your pet’s appointment.  The key to your pet receiving the best care is good communication between the veterinarian/team members and the pet parent.

If you are out there dating, in addition to always practicing safe sex, protect that heart of yours. Here is a review, some lessons learned and a few tips from other dating gurus:

Being a little retro doesn’t hurt. I have to admit that I struggled with this recommendation. I fully embrace 21st century female independence, (Do I even need to say that?) so when multiple dating experts suggested letting the guy set the first date, the feminist in me recoiled. No, forget the feminist: I recoiled. After reading enough, I realized it’s not about surrendering your power, but about knowing how men’s minds work (not to generalize or anything). “It’s not that men want a woman as a doormat, they just want to play their role as men, as protectors and providers,” says Lisa Copeland, dating coach. That’s not to say you have to be totally silent online; go ahead and reach out to people who interest you. “If you just put your profile online and wait around for someone to message you, you’re not being proactive in your dating life,” says Laurie Davis, founder of eFlirt. But after getting in touch, let him ask for your number, or make plans to meet up for drinks.

“Adam” is a guy I’ve created to illustrate one big and fascinating idea from a new book by British psychotherapist William Pullen: Movement is medicine.

Yes! Forget the word “exercise” for now. Just moving our bodies—walking, dancing, jogging, preferably in nature—can help free us from stress, emotional pain and whatever else we’re dealing with that makes our bodies feel stuck, unsettled and depressed.

This therapeutic connection between the mind and body isn’t a theory; it’s a fact of life. Your body is self-healing and wondrous, and when you move it, you automatically get the health benefits that come from the blood and lymph flowing, the molecules of emotion circulating, the tissues nourished, the joints juiced.

It’s summer somewhere... and if you’re lucky enough to escape for a tropical getaway anytime soon, chances are you’ve been shopping for a swimsuit. And whether you’re suiting up for a vacation in paradise, an afternoon beach walk, or just want to find a new suit before the neighborhood pool opens, it’s a good time to test the waters and dive into a new season of fun in the sun. Here are some tips and trends to get you started:

Take a chance on new styles. If you’ve always worn that boring black one-piece, throw caution to the wind, and experiment with something new. You may not be ready for a string bikini, but a new Baywatch-inspired red-hot maillot may be just the thing to put a little sizzle back into your swimwear wardrobe. One-pieces with plunging necklines and high-cut legs are having a moment this year.

As women, we have all experienced (and greatly appreciate) the undeniable power of shopping. Whether online or in-store, shopping has been known to boost a gal’s mood. Some even say shopping has substantial therapeutic effects.

But this month shopping will take on a remarkable new super power—the power to literally save lives!
Palmetto Animal League, the Okatie-based, no kill rescue, is giving us a great excuse to shop during their 9th Annual Bid for PAL Online Auction. Always a highly anticipated event, it’s a unique opportunity to treat yourself and help homeless animals at the same time! All funds raised benefit abandoned, abused and neglected pets right here in our community.

I caught a big fish! And, there is no feeling like it.
My sister-in-law Jessi and I went out for a fun afternoon with Beaufort’s Cast Away Charters crew, and after we cruised through Archer’s Creek into a placid Broad River, put a line in the water and had a near immediate bite... I knew I was hooked!

The Back Reel: The morning arrived and the texts started flying between Jessi and I. “What should I wear? What are you bringing?” All from girls, who in the summer can be ready for the boat in a skinny minute with no question of what to bring. So here’s the scoop: We didn’t need anything! The charter was four hours long, so we weren’t going to starve, plus Mrs. Captain Tim (a.k.a Mare the V.I.P. connoisseur) had a cooler packed with snacks and water. As far as the clothes, something comfortable was perfect.

Thanks to many Pink readers, questions have been pouring in and most are regarding the first meet up. The meet up should not be just a date, but about making a connection and getting the second date.

Once you have communicated within the dating site, feel confident your connection is not a scam, try to get a last name. Then you can google him/her before your meet up. Don’t give your full name too soon. Be vague about your profession, place of employment, birthplace, etc. Do not give your home address too soon either. Do not go to his house too soon. Use the buddy system. Tell a friend when and where you will be meeting, and text them when you arrive home safe and door locked. Now lets go out there and have fun.

Let’s pretend we’re sitting down, face to face, and after some easy chit chat, I put on my reporter’s hat and ask you this one dizzying question: What is the single most crucial factor when it comes to living a happy, healthy life?

Take a breath. Reflect. Have a glass of something.

The número uno most important factor.

Exercising daily? Very good guess. Eating well? Nice try.

But it’s not the answer that can change your life in unexpected and remarkable ways.

As spring fast approaches, the task of cleaning out our closets seems more overwhelming than ever. After all, we’ve still got a few chilly days ahead, right? Well, don’t let your good intentions grow cold. Here’s something to get you inspired: it’s the short list of the clothes and accessories to hold onto, to get rid of and even a few ideas of what to add to your spring shopping list.

Prove it with prints. Keep cold-shouldered tops. The off-the-shoulder looks are here to stay. The cutout sweaters made the transition to winter and the peasant blouse silhouettes will be worn by trendsetters come spring and summer. Get rid of oversized drapey knits and crinkled cottons that make you look like you grabbed them off the bottom of the laundry basket.

Meet Phoebe Jayne Your Heart Coach and Online Dating Consultant:
I’m hoping by now, you have selected at least one online dating site, uploaded your recent photos, written your profile and selected a username you are comfortable with. I suggest a variant of your name, not your real name. Strap in…the fun is about to begin!

Think about online dating as a project. As you have fun looking at the different profiles, you must develop an investigative approach for safety. Think about this as a fantasy. Nothing is real; don’t take anything too personally. You need to be smart to keep yourself safe.

Critically-acclaimed author Kristy Woodson Harvey is releasing Secret to Southern Charm, her second novel in her beloved Peachtree Bluff series, featuring a trio of sisters and their mother who discover a truth which will change not only the way they see themselves, but also how they fit together as a family. Her warmth and wit make this a charming and poignant story of first loves, missed opportunities and second chances.

After finding out her military husband is missing in action in Iraq, middle sister Sloane’s world crumbles. She can barely climb out of bed, much less summon the strength to be the parent her children deserve. Her mother, interior decorator, Ansley Murphy, provides a much-needed respite, putting her personal life on hold to help Sloane and her grandchildren wade through their grief. But, in caring for her own aging mother, daughters and grandchildren, Ansley worries that secrets from her past could appear.

Dear Readers, When was the last time you and your partner talked about money? To me it’s not only a good idea, it’s essential for maintaining a healthy relationship. And it’s also essential that each partner have a certain amount of financial independence. That becomes increasingly clear when you look at recent stats about financial abuse and infidelity in relationships. 

Think it can’t happen to you? A June 2017 survey by CentSai, an online financial wellness community, found that 60 percent of Millennials surveyed said they were victims of financial abuse or financial infidelity. These statistics are alarming—but not inevitable. Here are some preventative steps:

What? You’ve already failed to keep your New Year’s resolutions?

Of course you have. Welcome to human nature. And don’t feel badly. Zillions of your fellow Americans are also failing to give up nachos, sleep seven hours a night, bicycle to work, defend their souls against time-sucking small-screen devices. Great intentions, depressing results.

Why is the new-habit failure rate so high? Because changing behavior—as in developing new habits—is a skill.

Like shoeing a horse. It’s something you need to learn how to do, so when you decide to do it, your chance of success will skyrocket.

Meet Phoebe Jayne, Online Dating Guru:
I was an executive recruiter for almost 20 years, assisting clients in finding the perfect employee and candidates in finding the perfect job. Literally, I was a professional matchmaker, just on a corporate level. With all that experience of good fit and right match, I, Phoebe Jayne, have taken my tried and true career principles and put them to the test of online dating. Voila! Applying my recruiting techniques has proven to be an incredible (and successful) model to follow.

I have been an online dating consultant for two years. Of course I started by using myself as a test candidate; I had to see if my theory was on track. I kept accurate notes, timelines, research and charts. And, even with all that stuff that sounds a lot like work, I had fun in the process!

I believe hurdles in life are meant to be jumped over  are and not obstacles to stop us.
When initial plans to vacation in Cuba were derailed by hurricane Irma, my heart was broken but not my spirit. I had to find another way to get to this island, which sits only 90 miles off the coast of Miami.

Enter Globe Aware, a non-governmental organization (NGO) with volunteer programs in 17 third world countries. They are a “voluntourism” group—a mixture of volunteering and touring. Initially waitlisted, I joined a group of four in December for a week, and had an experience not to be forgotten.

I can recall vividly—and count on one hand—the migraine headaches I’ve had in my life, all of which were before age 10. Once I turned double digits, I outgrew them ... until a couple of months ago.

With no warning at all, there I was back to my 8-year-old self, flat on my back with a raging migraine. Why now, after all these years?

In reading up on the latest findings, I discovered how important magnesium is to our overall health. Turns out that 80 percent of the U.S. population suffers from magnesium deficiency causing all kinds of health issues, one of them being migraine headaches. And here’s the problem with that: Magnesium supplements are not necessarily the answer because it is not easily absorbed through the digestive tract.

Goodbye, millennial pink. Hello to a new passion for purple. It’s a new season and time to celebrate new fashion trends. Get ready to let a few feathers fly, belt on some fanny packs and see a rainbow or two.

Here’s a rundown on the newest trends for 2018:

> Prove it with prints. Just like denim, spring’s traditional florals get the darker treatment with an edgier vibe worthy of wallpaper botanicals. Plaids lighten up in checks and tartans. And whimsical graphic prints take fashion to a whole new level of fun. And after all, isn’t that the best way to dress in for a whole new year? 

Walking through the halls of Hilton Head Island Middle School, I could feel a sense of warmth, a feeling of spirit swaying in the hallway. This school has life to it, and you could tell it wasn’t just the students bringing it to the table.  
 
Meeting with Neodria Brown, the respected and loved principal at the school, was inspiring. She was honorable in showing how much she cares for this school. Neodria started breaking down the stereotypes of Hilton Head Middle when she said, “Middle school is one of the toughest times a person goes through, whether it be puberty, or just trying to transition from elementary school and getting ready for high school. There are pockets of poverty and pockets of wealth on Hilton Head, and here at school, we welcome the diversity of children and make them feel like they are worthy, uniting them as a Stingray family.”

Dear Carrie,
My husband and I own a vacation home. Now that it’s so easy to rent through sites like Airbnb or VRBO, we figure it only makes sense to rent it for part of the year. What does this mean for taxes?
–A Reader

Dear Reader, Great idea—and great question. More and more people are taking advantage of the relative ease of renting through online rental services, whether a vacation home or a part of their own house. I’ve heard it described as “found money.” However, while the extra income can be a real boost, the tax rules can be mind-numbingly complex. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it a try. It just means you need to be aware of the rules before you start the process so you know what you’re getting into.

I can give you some basics, but I urge you to talk to your tax advisor so you understand how the rules apply to your situation. You might also want to consult IRS Publication 527, which spells everything out in detail.

As some of you know, I’ve written a book called All is Well: The Art {and Science} of Personal Well-Being. It was published last April, and in August it became an Amazon best-seller. Yippee! I can’t really explain how we earned that status, but there’s a sophisticated algorithm involved, and you can bet I’m expressing gratitude for it.

“Writing a book and getting it published represents about 20 percent of the effort,” my friend, renowned author Michael Gelb, told me after writing seven books. “The rest of it is...” Well, you can imagine. 

Dear Readers, at the beginning of each New Year, I’m filled with a sense of new direction. At the same time, I like to look back at the previous year, evaluate what worked and make a fresh commitment to keep going on whatever path proved most successful.

One of the things that was a real boost to me in 2017 was a 30-day food cleanse that left me feeling stronger and more in control of my physical health. I turned that idea of a physical cleanse into a 30-day financial cleanse with the goal of giving people a way to supercharge their financial health. The response I got was so positive that I decided this is one of those ideas that really should be repeated.

It’s pretty generally acknowledged that financial health and physical health go hand in hand. And, it’s all about stress. In fact, studies have found that financial stress leads to a whole range of serious physical problems from heart attacks to ulcers to migraines to depression.

Sleep is the new black. It’s trending up, and if you haven’t woken up to how essential it is—for your physical and mental well-being—that’s probably because you’re not getting enough of it.

And what is enough? Aim for eight hours or more a night. WHAT? It was easier before, when humans just naturally rose with the sun and bedded down with the moon, but now we’re living in an electrified, digitized, brain-fried 24/7 world. And for many reasons, it’s getting in the way of our deepest, most restful sleep.