Some people enter our lives for a season, some for a reason. Krista Barlow’s husband, John, entered her life for both. Their marriage was a short season of only 20 days, but the reason John was sent to her is still unfolding five years later.

Hurricane Matthew hit in October 2016. Krista and John did not evacuate because John had chainsaws and power tools and felt he needed to stay to help. Matthew didn’t spare their home, though. A large tree fell and came through their roof. Krista said that John kept telling her everything would be okay, that God was preparing them for something even bigg

Do you have a cause that you wake up every day for?
What is it and how did this cause become near and dear to your heart?
I dream of a long-term safe house for Victims of Domestic Violence—Brillo de Mujer Home ( “A Woman ‘s Inner Light”). My goal is to create a home where we can help victims of domestic violence (DV) not only escape from their abuser, but also emerge from the darkness and depression associated with DV. And, to not only learn to love themselves again, but learn to shine. As a survivor of DV myself, I know how it feels when you’re in a hole of desperation and you don’t know where to go for help in that moment. It’s like all the doors are closed. You are not only scared and frightened, but you also feel completely alone. I want to help stop this cycle and show victims that we are not just survivors, we are warriors!

How do you support this cause?
Two years ago, my friend Lorena and I opened Tulips Thrift Store ( a 501(c)3 store) in Sheridan Park in Bluffton. This is our home base and the platform we use to bring awareness to the seriousness of domestic violence, and it is also a way for us to raise money to eventually purchase land and build long-term housing for DV victims.

Some people come into your life for a moment, while others stay for a lifetime. Mary Coleman and Margaret Jones are a beautiful example of the latter, with a lifetime of connection, friendship and love between them.

Growing up in Greenville, SC, Mary and Margaret met in the third grade, living in the same neighborhood and going to school together every day. These little girls played together in the afternoons, but they also shared a very special bond: A love of ballet. Though they went to different dance schools, ballet held a place in each of their hearts like no other art, and it was an outlet where the two girls belonged, where they were filled with their hearts’ desires. One might say their friendship is a perfect Pas de Deux, which simply means a dance for two; a duet.

“I love the smell of a ballet studio, the reverence, peace, quietness. It’s a place where you are fully focused. It’s like entering a different world,” Mary explained.

Angelique Logan had no clue how fast her life would change within one beat of the human heart. The stress of life or death was thrown into her hands without warning or immediate help.

In November 2021, Angelique finished her nightly routine, climbed into bed, and went to sleep as usual. Dreaming about Savannah’s upcoming Veterans Day parade and walking her sweet pup, Talia, Angelique had the ideal day planned for the following day, which she had off from work. While Talia’ and Angelique’s schedule was full, her husband, Rob, would be at work. He is a dockmaster in Savannah, holding a 100-ton USCG Master Captain’s license.

Rob never made it to bed that night. As she was winding down, he was watching television, relaxing in the big comfy chair almost every man has in their family room. Slightly past 2:00 A.M., Angelique woke up startled; she describes it as a “feeling.” The “feeling” worsened when she realized Rob was not in bed; the two did not add up. She called for Rob, and there was no answer. She got up and went to the family room where Rob was sleeping in the chair. She tried to wake him; after shouting and shaking Rob, she realized he was completely unresponsive.

Like most “pioneer” stories there were cows and pigs involved in the beginning. In fact, Beaufort’s Jeannine McConnell describes herself as a “farm girl” who grew up in rural Troy, Missouri, (Northwest of St. Louis) where the cows and pigs outnumbered the town’s 3000 inhabitants. The scrappy, pigtailed girl toted firewood from the age of 3 and quickly learned that to survive and thrive in her family and town, she needed to become “one of the guys.”

“I was jokingly referred to as my mother’s first daughter and third son,” she laughed. This trait uniquely positioned her for her future career.

Today, Jeannine is recognized globally as a technology pioneer whose four-decade career spans successes from software development patents and Big 4 management consulting, to strategic global leadership roles. She has a passion for optimizing potential, creating order out of chaos, finding collaboration amongst the broken pieces of complex organizations, and creating high performance teams that enjoy celebrating wins, while growing together. Many times, as the only woman in the room, with a ratio of about 1:35, Jeannine became determined to attain confidence and executive presence while becoming a “fierce” woman in technology.

Determined is one word that comes to mind when speaking with Maitea Carbajal. This outgoing, fun-loving, industrious 18-year-old, originally from Santa Barbara, California, has planted her heart in the Lowcountry.

Maitea moved to Hilton Head when she was 8 years old, hoping this new beach town would be the last, hoping for positive beginnings and a place she could call home. Fast forward to 2022, Maitea has found her niche in the Lowcountry and absolutely loves it.

Homeschooled since the 8th grade, Maitea has not only had the time to find her passions, but she also has had the support of her family and friends to do so.

Lieutenant Renita L. Berry answered my email sent over the weekend promptly at 9:30 am on Monday morning. That gives you an idea of her professionalism. We set our appointment for the same day, in the afternoon. She’s a busy lady who doesn’t waste time; I admire that a lot.

In addition to the rank of Lieutenant in the Beaufort County Sheriff’s Office, Renita retired as Colonel with the South Carolina Army National Guard just two years ago, having served 34 years, including two overseas deployments in Bosnia and Kosovo.

Renita and a friend joined the National Guard right out of high school in the little town of Bowman, SC, initially just to receive tuition aid for college. But she fell in love with the military and made it a career. She graduated from the University of South Carolina in Columbia with a degree in Chemistry in 1993 and earned a Master of Arts in Management from Webster University in 2004. She worked with the South Carolina Department of Health and Environmental Control at first, but a tour of a South Carolina Law Enforcement (SLED) lab opened another door for her.

Young people today are tech-savvy, and through apps like Instagram and TikTok, they encounter influencers who may be celebrities hawking products, or young adults with a huge number of followers earning money by endorsing products.

The true definition of an influencer, however, is someone who affects or changes the way other people behave. It’s someone who exerts influence to inspire or guide the actions of others. Kristi Wheat may not see herself as an influencer, but the seeds of her endeavors are bearing fruit to have a meaningful impact on children.

Once upon a time, a young woman in New Jersey married her high school sweetheart and believed that her life would be fulfilled by her Prince Charming. They would raise children, grow old together and happiness would forever be theirs.

Unfortunately, her dreams ended in divorce, and Lucille Tyler Baldwin quickly discovered how ill-equipped she was to manage her finances. “I had wonderful parents growing up, but we never talked about money, bills and debt,” she said. “I blamed my situation on Disney movies,” she joked, “because that’s all I did as a child…watch Disney movies…my Prince Charming would give me everything I would ever need.” Lucille worries too many women also believe in this fantasy. Now her passion is to teach financial literacy to women and children. “You can be in love and still handle money,” she said.

Hometown: Nahant, MA
Lives in: Hilton Head Island
Career: Education
Family: Adult Children, Rosemary, and Ross,
plus one crazy German Shorthaired Pointer, Birdie

You’ve been an educator for a long time. Tell us a little about your teaching journey. Education is a second career for me, and it came about quite accidentally. My undergraduate degree is in Marketing. In my 20s I worked in advertising when I lived in Chicago. Then I moved south to Hilton Head 28 years ago. I was mom to a toddler, had another child on the way and a sick parent, so I took some time away from my career to devote to family. When my oldest went to kindergarten, I wanted to find out first-hand what was happening in the schools, so I volunteered to be Room Mom. I was schooled by the PTA moms, not realizing that post was a coveted position in their world, so when I wasn’t appointed, I looked for another way to volunteer at school.

Uliana Gonzalez earned a master’s degree in architecture back home in Ukraine. Then she earned a PhD in historical preservation in Poland. In 2016, she had an opportunity to intern at a historic preservation foundation in Savannah, fell in love with the city, married and stayed. She grew up in Dnipro City in Ukraine, an area now on the front lines of the Russian invasion. “When we learned of the full scale invasion, my world collapsed. Watching on TV every day, I saw people killed, raped, robbed and houses destroyed,” she said. “I wanted to learn preservation techniques, but during war nothing is preserved.”

Her parents are still in Dnipro, and thanks to the satellite sent up by Elon Musk, she is able to connect with them. Her aunt, however, lives in Mariupol, which is still occupied by the Russians. Missiles hit her home, and she was injured. “She is an older lady, she is alone and the place she was allowed to evacuate to was Russia, so she stayed. This was her home where she spent her whole life, so where do you go? It’s like living in the Stone Age. Her house is ruined, she is cooking outside, and there’s no water. So many difficulties.”

Celia Furr is like an experienced tour guide for families on the most difficult journey of their lives. A journey through dementia is fraught with anxiety, fear and constant change for both the afflicted and their families. Celia said it’s a trip into the “Land of Denial” where many caregivers believe their loved ones will get better. “They try to look normal and be normal, and those closest to them don’t understand their new normal. Today is their best day, and tomorrow may be worse. They are out of time,” Celia said. As Memory Care Coordinator at the Preston Health Center at the Cypress on Hilton Head, Celia works every day with residents who suffer from dementia.

Celia has 21 years under her belt working in all levels of residential care, the last four at the Cypress. “Everybody has a story,” she said. “My Dad had vascular dementia and actually lived at the facility where I worked in Charlotte. His situation pulled me into dementia care.”

Life has a way of bringing people together. How did your paths cross?
PAT: I met Jan when she became interested in singing with the Threshold Choir, which thrilled me, because she can make ordinary music beautiful with her harmony. She loved our mission and was a blessing to the choir.

JAN: In late 2016, I was new to Beaufort, renting a place while looking for a home. With my first glance at the newspaper, I saw an ad for the Threshold Singers. They were looking for a cappella bedside singers for patients. I love a cappella singing and to join with people who knew how to give this a purpose, well, I called Pat that day to see how I could join. I was able to be a part of Threshold Singers for around three years before Covid shut things down with hospitals and assisted living homes.

In those three years, Pat and her singers taught me a lot about the power of music to help patients and their families during difficult times and health challenges. When we would sing in the hospitals, we could be requested to sing for a patient expecting bad news, and they would receive good news getting to go home the next day, so we sang more as a celebration. By contrast we would sometimes be requested to sing for a patient who had only hours to live and knew we were largely singing to the family. Often the families would make comments about their loved one’s breathing more relaxingly.

Andrew Carnegie stated: “Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.” This description of teamwork is what drives Carrie B. Lynard Major and Isabella S. (White) Runnels, whose paths crossed 37 years ago, both in their long friendship and service projects.

In 1985, Carrie established a non-profit organization, Carae’s Lowcountry Modeling, and Isabella was highly recommended as a potential board member. They immediately gravitated towards each other, realizing their purpose and goals are to serve.

Both ladies are well-known in Beaufort for Carae’s Lowcountry Modeling, which allows young people to improve their self-image, enhance public presentation and learn skills in self-motivation, decision making and goal setting.

‘It’s never too late to make a new friend. Just ask Irene Racine and Lyla Stocker. They’ve been best friends for more than a decade, which may not seem like a big deal, except Irene just turned 100 in September and Lyla is 101.

Though these two precious ladies are from different backgrounds, their friendship suits them perfectly. Originally from Buffalo, NY, Lyla is retired military. She was a Naval registered nurse during World War II, on duty aboard a ship that was bringing Americans back from Germany. Her military career expanded to the launch of the United States Air Force, and she transferred from the Navy to serve. Her career took her to Seattle and Yokohama, and she was active duty during the Korean War. She served her country, and it wasn’t until her military days were over that she settled down, found the love of her life and got married.

What are three characteristics that your girlfriends would say they love about you?
My undying loyalty and support, my sense of humor and my ability to plan and get everyone together. Oops that’s 4!

You were a hairstylist at a retirement community and met many wonderful seniors while doing their hair, did you form any special friendships?
I met and befriended many wonderful men and women at Indigo Pines on Hilton Head. I have so many great memories and learned so many life lessons from them. One resident, Olivia “Lympe” Young, and I became especially close; I believe it was because I had lost my mom and my grandmothers and craved a maternal relationship. Lympe had four sons, so I think she enjoyed having me as a “daughter-type” friend. We had so much in common, starting with our anniversary date—October 27— all the way to her former late-life career as a hairstylist. (She became a hairdresser in her 60s to fight boredom!)

The walls in Judi Clifford’s home are tastefully decorated with scores of family pictures—weddings, vacations, kids and grandkids. These pictures not only include Judi’s biological family, but also her extended family. The photos are a montage of multi-generational friends that have walked through life together: the Cliffords, Richesons, the Ellis family, the Galanti family and the Mears family.

Judi grew up in Little Rock, Arkansas. Her father was one of 10 children, and Judi grew up surrounded by family, especially her tribe of cousins. When she married Ron 60 years ago, his job caused them to relocate 13 times, including to two foreign countries. “With all this constant uprooting, we moved around without relatives, and I wanted the kind of relationships I grew up with for my own children. So, I guess I created cousins by absorbing my friends’ children into our family,” Judy said.

When you’ve been best friends with someone since age 3, you expect to go through some changes. But you never expect this.

On July 15, 2017, Mary Catherine Rawlinson was returning to Florence, SC after a trip to the beach with her family. They were ten minutes from home when another driver hit them head on, injuring the entire family. Mary Catherine was the worst off—she had a broken neck at C6 and a fractured lower spine at L4, which initially left her quadriplegic. Doctors were vague with her, saving the details for her parents, so she didn’t really grasp her situation at first.

“I thought I was going to go to therapy for a while, and I would be back to normal,” recalls Mary Catherine, who had neck surgery before being sent to Shepherd Center in Atlanta for rehabilitation. “I just kind of assumed and hoped for the best. I think when I realized it wasn’t going to be an immediate fix was when they kept extending my time at Shepherd.”

Call it serendipity, kismet, destiny, or a God wink. Two young college graduates each relocate to Hilton Head to start their careers and their lives—alone with no family. A chance meeting at the Black Marlin restaurant resulted in a nine-year friendship (that both women believe will last a lifetime), as well as a marriage.

Dollar Daiquiri Day brought them to the Black Marlin and crazy balloon hats brought them together. After four years, Caitlin Lee had settled in to her new life and made some friends. So on a beautiful autumn afternoon, she and three of her guy friends went to the restaurant to watch college football. There was a man making balloon hats for customers, and Caitlin said she and her friends didn’t have any cash to pay him, so they exchanged shots of Fireball for balloon hats. “We were hootin’ and hollerin’ and the hats got crazier and crazier and more intricate. I kept seeing this girl watching us,” Caitlin said.

Christina Boughton looks like she could beat frat boys in an arm-wrestling competition, and she’s currently training for the Chicago Marathon. But the journey that brought her to this point started with fast food, partying and a family history of cardiovascular disease.

“Growing up we had a very general knowledge of what healthy eating was,” she says, “but once I turned 18 and moved out, I started following what other teenagers were eating. I definitely did not love the way I looked.”

While she was pregnant with her daughter, Christina gained almost 70 pounds. Then she had a son and her pre-baby weight receded even further. But when her husband, a photographer, had to take pictures at the finish line of the Chilly Bean Race on Lady’s Island, Christina put the babies in a double stroller and ran/walked the 5K. She was crossing the finish line when a thought occurred to her: what if she committed to a 5K every month of 2018? By the end of that year she’d done 14.

Christie Cregg is quick to laugh, despite the immense burden of sorrow she carries. But behind the brave smile lie tears which, these days, are always close to the surface.

“When I look at old pictures of myself,” she says, “I see that a part of my smile is gone. I don’t think it will ever come back.”

Christie is from Cobbtown, Georgia, where she grew up in a little wooden shack with six brothers and no running water. She started working the tobacco fields at age 6, and by 12 she became an instant mother of six when her mom took on her brother’s children. A life of hardship had left Christie’s parents emotionally shut down, and she was headed the same way. Yet she can recall sitting on the back porch, swinging her legs and talking candidly to a very special “friend”—it wasn’t until the first time she attended church at age 10 that she realized her friend was God. “It was like a lightbulb went off that this person I’d been talking to was real,” she says.

You were an OR nurse when you were diagnosed with breast cancer. How did you detect your cancer? Did being a nurse help?
My breast cancer was detected by what is called my baseline screening mammogram, or otherwise known as my first ever mammogram. After my biopsy results came back, I approached Dr. Shelly Ringer in the OR and told her I’d be coming to see her next week as a patient. She gave me a hug and a look that said “I got you.” This second devastating diagnosis of cancer—the first being melanoma—within a year of each other came at what I considered the peak of my career as a nurse. With close to 20 years, I felt I had all the skills, knowledge and confidence to deliver at my very best the nursing care needed by my patients. The experience of role reversal in becoming the recipient of care was a disconcerting and frustrating experience. It is being in a world that is both familiar and foreign; as a nurse I gave up the authority and control in caring for others, while submitting myself as the patient. A form of distress called “insider vulnerability” was experienced due to my understanding of the illness and treatment as compared to that of most patients.

Lori and Scott Martin are still married after 37 years. They’ve always gotten along and have never even thought of divorce. However, it was that “’til death do you part” thing that almost got them…twice.

“I love Scott so much,” Lori said through tears, though she also said laughing, “but sometimes I want to kill him. He says ‘right back at ya!’”

This longtime couple have been through thick and thin. They have raised three wonderful children to adulthood, with the oldest two now married and settled. The youngest, Anni, at age 23, is back living at home studying to be a nurse. She will graduate after next year’s spring semester, and it is by the grace of God that she had moved back home last year when this family’s world was turned upside down.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face….You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

Susan Bailey simply exudes a joie de vivre with her positive attitude, zeal for life and confidence. Her blue eyes shimmer over an engaging smile, and she has a genuine interest in learning about the people with whom she interacts. Susan has been a realtor for over 35 years and clearly loves helping clients find their dream homes.

She was an Army brat who was accidentally born in Texas and grew up in North Carolina, where she went to both high school and college. She earned a Master’s degree in behavioral modification but only worked in the field of psychology for a brief period, However, it has served her well, especially over the last 23 years.

There are many healthy choices that can make your life better, however, when you turn even one healthy choice into a habit, your wellness can begin to soar. Most people have no idea how much better they could feel—mind, body and spirit—if they only incorporated a few, small, healthy changes into their daily routine. Hands down, health is the greatest wealth there is, and everyone has the ability to make good choices for their best—or at least better—health.

Honestly, we’re being a bit bullish about this. We want to push you, albeit gently, toward living your best life through developing healthy habits that make your well-being a priority. From the list we brainstormed of possible healthy habits, we narrowed our focus to what we consider the top six that will make a profound difference in well-being. They are eating, exercising, life-balance, positive thinking, meditation and journaling.

What motivated you to become a healthy eater? 
After having my first child, I was eating healthy in search of weight loss. After years of trying different fad diets, and fluctuating back and forth with an “all or nothing” mentality between my idea of healthy and unhealthy eating, I finally found balance in my life when I learned how to balance the three basic macronutrients—carbs, fats, and protein. In learning this, food no longer needs to be labeled as “bad” or “good.” I now enjoy all the foods I love, in moderation, and have sustained a healthy weight, balanced hormones, increased energy and increased mental clarity. 

What does being a healthy eater look like? Do you ever have french fries or dessert?
For anyone who knows me, dessert is a non-negotiable! I eat dessert every single day. Eating healthy is all about eating to fuel your body. YOUR BODY DESERVES IT! French fries or dessert are not bad, they are predominately carbs and fats. So balanced with adequate protein throughout the day, carbs and fats fuel our energy, hormones and much more!

Having Balance is one of the hardest things to achieve. How do you define a “balanced life”?
Keeping a balanced life sometimes is very challenging. It takes practice to learn how to find some middle ground and get better at it, making time for things you have to do, as well as things you want to. Finding that medium ground, where we learn enjoyment and happiness, helps create a more balanced life.

Tell us how you have found balance in your daily life:
I have found balance in my life by creating priorities, getting involved in what makes me happy, making good friends who count, working with changes that affect me, and always building my self-esteem and confidence to create a strong mind. Spirituality—spending time alone is very important because it gives me time to reflect on my daily activities, meditate, read, or just be in the present moment where nothing else matters.

What motivated you to start exercising regularly?
Honestly, I really think it was just meeting up with friends and talking. Some days we would run 2 miles, and others we could run up to 6 and just hash out life.

Tell us about your exercise regime:
I do really love to exercise! So Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, my good friend, Stephanie Cahill, and I run 2-3 miles at 5 a.m. before the kids wake up and before getting ready for work. Then, on Tuesdays and Thursdays, I meet up with another good friend, Michal Anderson, and we run/walk 2 miles, then meet a bunch of other women (including Meg James) and workout at FIA (Females In Action, a peer-lead workout group) from 5:15 to 6:00. I also try to throw in a Peloton workout 2-3 times a week because the music is fantastic. Oh, and I also help out with the running club at school on Wednesday afternoons, which allows us to teach the importance of stretching and to keep moving.

When we asked around the Lowcountry, your name came up over and over on being super positive. What a compliment! How does that make you feel?
Surprised, to be completely honest! Being more positive is a recent goal of mine, and although I like to believe that I am positive, I am honored that I am perceived as positive by others. It is a very sweet and emotional confirmation. Positivity is something that I have to be mindful of because although it can be natural at times, it’s not always easy.

We all have a choice to either think positive or think negative, what have you done to skew your mindset to positive thinking?
Remembering that it is a choice, and every choice counts. This is something that my Grammy taught me at a very young age.

What motivated you to start a practice of meditation?
In 1994 I started practicing permanent cosmetics, and I did a body scan meditation with my patients. The benefits were exactly what we both needed. The patients usually came in with a lot of fear, as you can imagine; meditation shifted their fear into a pleasing relaxing state. It was great to be connected at that level. I benefited because it helped them trust me more, which allowed me to focus on creating beautiful work for them.