“If you’re going to change a habit, you must be the treatment.”
—Dr. Wayne Dyer—

One of my favorite quotes in the whole wide world is “Change your attitude, change your world.” I have lived by this quote for probably 15 years, and I think I have a good attitude about most things. However, this month’s theme is about healthy habits, not attitude, so when I stopped to deeply think about habits—both good and bad—I realized my favorite quote works just as well when adapted to “Change your habits, change your world!”

Binge Watching: Binge watching a television series on a streaming app actually starts with an A—addiction. Aha, they got you! I was having a conversation with a local server the other evening, and he was talking about how wonderful a certain series was and how he stays up all night watching it. I don’t know the stats, but I believe lots of people do this. I want to break the news to binge watchers that they are in complete control. I’m not sure how we get hooked, probably because one show starts immediately after the one before it finishes, but somehow, the fact that we can stop it, get a great night’s sleep and resume right where we left off during our next free time slot eludes our brains. Thus we binge watch…for hours on end.

“I can choose to let it define me, confine me,
outshine me or refine me. I can also choose to move
on and leave it behind me!”
—unknown—

There are lessons to learn in almost every moment of any given day. Basically, if you’re breathing, you can be learning. However, there is a big difference between educational learning and life lesson learning. Educational learning is easy to pick up as you go about your day being exposed to new facts, news, how-tos, words, etc. However, in order to learn life lessons, you have to not only be breathing, but also paying close attention.

It’s been years since I’ve had a hissy fit over the weather, but it is time. I’m not mad at the weather, and I don’t think it’s too hot. I mean it is hotter than a pig at a Fourth of July cookout, but it always has been—it’s August. August doesn’t pretend to be anything else but blazing. She’s not going to tease you with early morning coolness, and she’s stingy with breezes, which is perfectly fine since they feel like a fan in front of bonfire. Heck, she’ll barely even throw shade. August doesn’t care what you say about her because she knows, without doubt, she is hot, and she flaunts it.

I grew up in the basement furnace of South Carolina—Columbia. I start to sweat just thinking about Columbia and August getting together. If it weren’t for Lake Murray and the Woodland Village swimming pool, I think we all would have melted, just like the butter we used for suntan lotion. We looked like cows in a pasture with one tree and a small pond—everybody’s either in the pond with their tongues hanging out, or standing under the tree trying not to move to avoid having heat stroke.

"Clean out a corner of your mind, and creativity will instantly fill it.”
—Dee Hock—

Here’s where we go wrong as women, and frankly as humans in general: We expect too much and give too little. Before you take that deep huffy breath, let me expound: We expect too much of ourselves and give too little to ourselves. Now, take a gentler breath.

In founding the women’s publications Pink Magazine 18 years ago, and Paisley Magazine 14 years ago, I have talked to some women throughout my publishing journey—thousands and thousands of women to be more descriptive. What I have found is a common thread amongst the majority of women—most give too little to themselves. (Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule.)