From Doormat to Dream Girl

by Lindsay Gifford

While out celebrating one night, I found myself sitting around a table at a local restaurant with seven beautiful, strong, self-confident women who serve on a non-profit board of directors with me. We were enjoying a fun night for a change and the conversation immediately turned to men—their habits, new family roles, relationships, all the normal issues a woman encounters whether she is married, engaged, dating or single. As we delved into one scenario, a friend exclaimed, “You need to read this book Why Men Love Bitches. It changed my life.” 

As a self-proclaimed “non-self-help book reader” I have recently begun to re-evaluate my stance on many of the books I would never have considered picking up. Now don’t worry, I don’t plan to buy every book that “makes your life better” and read endlessly about the woes of life, but I do think applicable advice, that may come in the form of a book, just might be OK. And ladies, this book is a great choice.

New York Times bestselling author, Sherry Argov chose a title that really packs a punch, but don’t let it scare you away. In fact, the entire book revolves around a new definition of “bitch” and not the female dog variety.  Argov defines it as “Bitch (noun): A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else’s opinion—be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it’s just one person’s opinion; therefore, it’s of no real importance. She doesn’t try to live up to anyone else’s standards—only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.” 

With Argov’s unique perspective on relationships she creates pages of detailed scenarios that inform readers why men are attracted to a strong, no-nonsense woman who stands up for herself. Throughout the book, she offers real-life situations that will have you second guessing many of your go-to responses to a man’s lack of communication, tardiness, attitude, etc. Whether you consider yourself a woman who routinely sacrifices herself or one who strives to be a strong independent woman, you will easily relate to Argov’s mindset.

Working through relationship stages, Argov provides compelling answers to many of the tough questions women face daily including: 

• Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change? 

• Why do men take nice girls for granted? 

• Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?

These questions along with “she says/he thinks” tables and her “Attraction Principles” provide hilarious schemes that will have you ready to start making changes and apply your new-found confidence. This guide will really get you thinking and once you apply your new principles and increase your romantic chemistry, you’ll gain your man’s love and respect with far less effort.

"Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them."

“Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you
in a limiting way.”

"When you live life with him or without him, that is when he will accept and value you for who you are."

"If someone else doesn’t like your confidence, that’s their problem. Why? You always come before they do, that’s why.”

About the Author: 

Sherry Argov

Sherry Argov is the author of Why Men Love Bitches, and Why Men Marry Bitches. Her writings have appeared in over 50 magazines including People, Vanity Fair, US Weekly, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Elle, Self, Modern Bride, Maxim and Esquire. Her work has been featured nationally on the Today show, The View, MSNBC, Fox News Channel and MTV. Her first book Why Men Love Bitches was named one of the “10 Most Iconic Relationship Books of the Past 10 Years” by Yahoo!, and America’s Top Relationship Guide by Book Tribe. A first-class theater production abroad, her live play has topped billboard charts for seven consecutive years, and has received critical acclaim. Her work currently is published throughout the world in over 30 languages. For more information, visit the author’s website at www.sherryargov.com.

Can’t Get Enough?

Sherry Argov also wrote a sequel entitled: Why Men Marry Bitches.

*Quotes and synopsis information provided by Why Men Marry Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl, Sherry Argov and Adams Media.