Hissy Fit ...because everyone deserves one once in awhile.

Little Word, Big Problem

I don't like it a bit. That little comment people - usually women - make. "I read your little article." "How's your little project coming along?" "Is your little problem working itself out?" "I just love your little painting!" "I enjoyed your little retreat." "Congratulations on your engagement and your little diamond is so pretty."

Surely I am not the only one that hears the venom coming out of these pseudo compliments. Or maybe that's just the way some people talk and it is not meant to belittle, but it sure sounds like it is. It's that one little word that's in there wreaking havoc: the word "little".

Fact: The word "little" is negative. No matter how thoughtful or sincere of a person you are, by using the word little in your comments and/or compliments, you are negating your genuineness. According to Webster, the word little is defined as, "small in condition, distinction, or scope; narrow; not much; small in importance or interest: trivial."

So, with that now being perfectly clear, unless you're talking about someone's baby, puppy, kitten, black dress, wrinkles, age spots or sports car, don't use the word "little" to describe what someone believes in, has, or does. Even in those circumstances you should proceed with caution. Compliments are supposed to make someone feel good, or at least better. There is nothing positive about "little" and it doesn't sound cute either. Really, it just sounds small and narrow, exactly like what it is. In fact, it takes all the nice words that surround it and deflates them and the whole thought. If it has happened to you, then I'm sure you have felt the sting this little zinger injects.

I'm not sure of the origin of the word "little" being used in this context. Some may think that it is a cutesy way of talking, possibly left over from childhood. However, in adulthood it is an annoying, bitter habit, and I can't imagine even in childhood that is was ever very positive. If you sincerely have a compliment or comment for someone, then say it like you mean it. If you don't mean it, then don't say anything at all. I bet you've heard that before?

Now read those same comments without the little lurking through them: "I read your article." "How's your project coming along?" "Is your problem working itself out?" "I just love your painting!" "I enjoyed your retreat." "Congratulations on your engagement and your diamond is so pretty." Much better!

The bottom line: Women need to talk to women better. Be nice - it doesn't take any more energy and it is so much better than the alternative. Well, that's it; short and sweet. some may even say little

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