I've always thought it silly and pretentious to use a season as a verb, such as: "We'll be wintering in Palm Beach"; or "We summer on the Cape every year." Funny, I just noticed that it only works for those two seasons. One can't exactly exclaim, "We'll be falling along the Appalachian Trail", and expect people not to worry or administer a breathalyzer. You don't really want to spring anywhere either.there are products for that. Plus, it changes the entire connotation, draining with it all panache. My point to this grammar lesson is this: I'm giving myself permission to summer!
For the past nine years, I have been so busy doing, that I've almost forgotten how to relax, have fun, and just hang out. Even when I've wanted to just hang out, I wouldn't commit, because I never knew if I would be too pooped to party. I have developed such a deep-seeded habit of keeping my nose to the grindstone between work and family, that I have forgotten how to just chill and have fun. I still have potential, because when I get away from it all, I feel the freedom come out of hiding, begging to play.
This is my son's last summer at home before he goes to Carolina in the fall, and I want to have fun.with him, and without him! In fact, I'm going to work hard at having fun, and I'll fake it 'til I make it, if necessary. Wait, I think I'm missing the point. Permission to summer is about taking time to enjoy and celebrate life in the Lowcountry. So, what does this look like for me, and what is involved? Well, I'm not precisely sure, but this is what I'm thinking:
Getting in the water at least once a week: I love being in a pool or the ocean. What I don't love is being in a bathing suit. However, this summer I'm all in. I don't want a week to go by that I don't fully submerse my entire being beneath the surface of refreshing, cool water, and do at least one handstand, or perhaps have a tea party at the bottom of the pool.
Watching the sunset: There is a lady here, Jacqueline Hayworth, who takes photos of the sunset every single day, and then posts them on Facebook. When I see her photos, I realize how much I'm missing by not putting myself out there to soak it all in. She inspires me to develop some kind of daily ritual that will feed my soul and remove me from the computer.
Going to the beach for recreation: The last few times I went to the beach it was to take photos for the magazine. You can't imagine how stupid I felt walking down the beach in long black pants and a blouse. I want to go to the beach like a teenager again. Must haves: iPod, fun romance novel, cold beverages, Frisbee, and plenty of time! In fact, I just decided.I'm going to get a tan this summer.
Tearing through summer reads at the rate of a book a week: I love to read and am happily addicted to books. I have a pile of them just waiting to be read. I think I'll keep a journal of each book I read and recap it for you at the end of summer. I'm sure I'll have some great ones to pass on. For my classic read this summer, I have chosen The Unvanquished by William Faulkner. I dated a guy in college who told me this book is great and the ending is a shocker.25 years later, we'll see.
Playing tennis and getting active again: I quit working out about a year ago, and I miss demanding my body to be strong. Lately, I've been wearing shorts and I see the remnants of cut calves and strong quads. I'm ready to hit the gym and the tennis courts. I had so much fun playing tennis as a young adult. We would play until 11 or 12 at night under the lights. Always competitive, I'm definitely game!
Having summer dinner parties: I quit entertaining because I haven't wanted to commit any of my weekend time to anything. However, I miss having people over, sharing a bottle of wine, and nurturing friendships. I have met so many cool people that I want to know better. I will fill my table with interesting people this summer and laugh often and loudly!
Well. It's obvious that my life has gotten out of balance. But the first step is recognizing the problem; that's what I'm doing here (I didn't realize the problem until I sat down to write.I just wanted to have a good summer, okay). However, I am not alone (now it's your turn to do a little soul-searching, lady). I am the typical woman who is weighed down with demands, and takes very little time for herself. Besides, I'm not surprised; balance is the number one thing women seek. The only way it's going to change is if I choose to be different; and that, my friends, is why I'm giving myself permission to summer.
Can you come out and play?
Jacie's Peanut Butter and Jelly Project Update
Please don't forget to donate jars of peanut butter and jelly to the Peanut Butter Project for the Church of the Cross food bank. It's important to remember those in need, even in the summer. Everyone is encouraged to buy an extra PB&J and drop it off at our office (Pink Magazine), Hilton Head Christian Academy, or 104.9 The Surf.